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  • écrire plus!

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    ***LATE POST (like way way late)***

    As I headed into the last leg of the nanowrimo process, I needed to take a breather from writing, so I came to my blog 😉 **then I waited several months before I came back** This has been such a harrowing experience; attempting to write a 50,000 word novel in just 31 days. I am not a perfectionist by any means, but trying to breeze through this novel-sans edititing every step of the way-has forced me to ease up on the reigns a bit, in writing and thankfully in holding myself accountable for trudging through the days, only now hitting the 2k/day mark, not to mention the much appreciated distraction from the ensuing events of the world.

    I unfortunately became rather detoured with a recent celebration in Reno, NV; my 30th birthday (Nov. 19th)! Until now, I had never enjoyed the opportunity to hang out in this adult playground. The hubby and I enjoyed seeing Adam Corolla live and a steak and seafood dinner. The restaurant served New Zealand Red Deer, which I was totally unaware is quite the delicacy in the land of the great white cloud. We danced the night away to a live band and retro 90s dj. There even served us a flaming bowl of alcohol! However, I recall very little beyond that. This trip did allow me to remain secure in the fact that, when the chips are down (cheeky casino ref.) my husband will always be there for me 💙

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    In keeping up with the Steampunk Stroll happening that same night in Reno, I got this epic gears necklace.

    Fast Forward>> to the most awe inspiring, nerd-fest honeymoon of all time 😍

    We flew out for Auckland New Zealand in late December. Landing at the airport, the weather was cloudy with a little humidity, it truly felt like we were in a topical oasis. The husband and I spent 14 days driving a Britz camper van from Auckland on the North Island all the way down to Queenstown on the South Island, where we would fly out of and back to Auckland for another 13 hour flight back to San Francisco Intl.

    We did some touristy stuff like visiting the Auckland War Memorial Museum, Winter Garden Pavilion, and went to the top of the Sky Tower. Highly recommend Giapo for gourmet ice cream. I had my first exposure to a New Zealand favorite; Hokey Pokey and officially became obsessed. A coupe days later we went to the fascinating Waitomo glow worm caves and learned that back in the 1800s our 30 dollar admission fee was a mere 8 cents! (Side note, the money in NZ is SO colorful). Driving through the lush country sides we noticed two different deer farms, which I though was strange because on any given day if you are around the rivers near our home of Sacramento, CA you can almost always spot deer, prancing out in the open, unenclosed. Only later did we realize these adorable creatures would likely demolish the lush environment if allowed to roam as they do here in Cali., and I recalled that expensive NZ deer steak we saw on the menu back in Reno.

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    Hobbiton-Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit filming location. Matamata, New Zealand

    We stayed in some wonderful Holiday Parks, the most memorable being at Himatangi Beach on Christmas. There were so many local families that loved to stay in these parks. They are perfect for hooking up your camper or motorhome if you need water/electricity, or if you only had a car and tent, most offer non hook-up sites and you can even find free car parks too. People were so friendly and helpful. I loved how everyone was comfortable talking to strangers and sharing stories and travel tips. We took a picture at Mordor on Christmas Day, which was pretty much as epic as it gets. We’ll go back someday to experience the multi day trails that can be found on the Alpine Crossing. Then again… just walking uphill for 20 feet proved challenging for our bettered knees and backs. The one downside we discovered was on Christmas, when NO liquor stores were allowed to sell alcohol. It proved very convenient on every other day though, having plenty of Four Squares and PAK’nSAVE stores when we were in need of food and supplies.

    Wellington was by far our favorite city. We stayed here for two days, had a wonderful time drinking craft beer and ale, eating at open air restaurants, and I even got my nails done (#ladyluxury). We booked a tour at the Weta Workshop, where I came face to face with an actual fully functioning Warthog from Halo. We saw and held props from District 9, The Chronicles of Narnia, and of course, Lord of the Rings. This is a must do weather you are a movie buff or not, it is a priceless and inspiring experience. For those of you familiar with the jaw-dropping show Westworld, we saw a life size silicone mold of none other than Matt Damon being created with that fast pace needle work you see in the opening credits. It was truly surreal.

    Hanmer Springs located on the South Island, was the coolest water park. Instead of boasting chlorine water, every pool was filled with natural sulfur springs. They even had slides! The most amazingly large portion of fish and chips were served at a small food shack just outside of the park, much more fresh and less expensive than in the states. Not to mention, something about the coffee was amazing (even though when you ordered regular coffee, to kiwis this automatically meant it included milk) and the eggs were the most brilliant orange we’ve ever seen!

    Lake Te Anau was a really nice little town surrounding the most beautiful lake, after staying here for a night, we headed down to the Christchurch ruins, Dunedin, and finally Queenstown, where we found the second most amazing ice cream at Patagonia.

    Queenstown was an obvious hot spot. Busier than Wellington but smaller so the crowds made it seem like we were in a much large city. There were no shortage of extreme activities to sign up for; bungee jumping, jet boat rides, the coolest looking chair lift you could see from most areas of the town, leading to to what I was told was a café and restaurant that rarely had reservations available, so we skipped it. Opting to instead, to drive up the mountain for about 40 minutes to the town of Glenorchy. This was a rather quaint country town and yet boasts so many fimiling locations! From Isengard in LOTR, to several forest shoots seen in the Hobbit movies, even a scene from Wolverine was filmed on one of the gravel roads we traveled on.

    After our luxurious stays at Holiday Parks, having access to showers and laundry service, we chose to spend New Years at a DOC campground near Lake Sylvan. We later ate at the same spot where the cast and crew from LOTR use to hang out at during filming, on the walls hung typical American nostalgia, including James Dean and Spaghetti Western memorabilia. There was even an old western map of Reno, NV hanging near the bar 🙂

    TIP: Be sure to purchase local bug repellent to rid yourself of the nasty little sand flies that swarm this location. Our weak and useless Off spray did zilch to keep away this tiny little guys, and I was unfortunate enough to get so many bites on my feet it lead to temporary but very unpleasant skin issues.

    Dart River boat rides, a thrilling adventure we highly recommend, was not cheap but totally worth it to see the surrounding landscape from the river, and explore tucked away groves and World Heritage sites. The driver was absolutely crazy! Water sprayed us everywhere (luckily they loan you oversized ponchos to wear under the life jackets). He would signal when we were heading into 180 turns, and there were two boats zipping around each other at the same time.

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    Me and my smiling hubby in the back row 🙂

     

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    And finally, now that we’re all up to speed (pfew). It was a lovely first Valentine’s as newlyweds. My super amazing husband sent a special delivery marking the previous day as our six month wedding anniversary! I felt incredibly loved as I carried the large and awkwardly shaped bright green box up the stairs to my office. Then, later that evening, I spent a few hours watching my new roller derby team mates participate in our first scrimmage of the season, #GalentinesDay. Lastly, the following day I completed my public service entry level probation, and began the first course towards earning my MPA certification online at the University of Missouri. So many great things have already occurred, and even more are inevitably on the way… 👶

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    “For my amazing wife. You are wonderfully beautiful, brilliant, and bona-fide awesome. But you know that already!!! So here’s to another year of adventure and discovery my copilot. All the loves! Your HUBBY! Muah xoxo”
  • engaged life…

    When putting on a wedding becomes more for everyone else than for you and your partner, it may be time to re-prioritize. Without family footing the bill, it became quite apparent there was no reason to try and incorporate the suggestions of everyone lining up to offer an opinion. Just because they might expect a certain flair of opulence doesn’t mean it’s the appropriate representation of me, or my Taoist practicing hubby-to-be. If I had it my way, without an iota of consideration for the comfort or sensibilities of others, there would be less than thirty guests situated under the illuminated canopy of the redwood forest. Trees would be adorned with twinkly fairy lights as we dance the night away to the musical styling of a talented (affordable) acoustic guitarist. On the epic, no expense spared approach, we’d have an exquisite masquerade ball, same location, add in a hauntingly romantic carousel and tables filled with French pastries and Italian cusine. I also love the idea of having the entire event in a charming little barn, maybe somewhere in Sonoma. So long as everyone has a great time, what does it really matter where or how much it costs. As it stood, if we didn’t go ahead with this complete overhaul, we would then have to forego the highly anticipated LOTR honeymoon of our dreams. Giving up two weeks of self discovery in the most unique landscape in the world in exchange for exhausting our budget on a reception? No way! Once we bother agreed this was not an option, we (ok I) carefully crafted the following last minute, budget friendly, summer-time beach wedding 🙂

    Granted I happened along on pure luck as most of Michael’s beach theme and eclectic decor was on a huge markdown. I was able to pick up a few bags of beautiful sea glass, chalk boards, and a blue rustic wood frame perfect for our alternative guestbook. Luckily, the antique Parisian country theme we’d had previously, still fits in line perfectly with this new beach vibe, including theses awesome biodegradable birch straws.

    The cost of our highly sought after photographer- featured on a recent real weddings cover- was not cheap to start. Add in the cost of accommodation and travel from Placerville to the Bay area and well, it’s a good thing we’re saving so much on the venue now cause… ouch. At any rate, I am fully comfortable and happy with our choice. Knowing you really get along with and can rely on the one person in charge of capturing every moment of your special day is truly priceless.

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    I was also able to find a replacement for our flowers, utilizing a search of flower shops close to the area, I lucked out with the family owned El Camino Florist in South SF. I’ve requested something along the lines of Blake Lively’s epic wedding bouquet:

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    The date: August 13th, will be the two year anniversary of our first date and my lucky number! Having 13 incorporated in the most memorable day of our lives, not to mention being near the ocean in Pacifica, where I was sure as a child I would get married, I couldn’t for a better better scenario. We were initially advised to hold the wedding during the off season, on a weekday to save money. So originally we opted for a Sunday in December, not wanting to be all alone on a weekday evening, understanding that our loved ones have demanding lives. In addition, I was incredibly worried that one guest in particular would take full advantage of the bar and thus, we cut the reception time short. With recent developments, occurring just before all the other changes, I decided it was best (and well over due) to remove that person from my life completely. It’s almost as though, once I made that decision, all the decisions to fallow just fell into place. I am convinced it was the universes way of telling me I’ve made the right choice. Now, with a new found lease on life, a preferred wedding location and expedited date, even an exciting new career on the horizon, I couldn’t ask for anything more that to be married to the love of my life this summer. ♥

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    People often reminisce on the early days of their relationship. I think, after we’ve been married for 10-20 years I won’t be looking back to the beginning. The start of our relationship was riddled with uncertainty; will he call again, will I see him again, do I have time for a relationship. Nope, I thinking I will look back fondly on these more recent moments. Living in the heart of downtown Sacramento with our black cat, sans kids. Budgeting for our life, our wedding, eating sushi and taking trips to the movies and local bars. Being laid off two summers in a row while remaining incredibly thankful to have such a supportive and understanding partner in my corner, cheering me on. Forever.

  • love is…

    I do hope that everyone had as lovely a Valentine’s Day weekend as we did. Highly recommended is the Beltane Ranch in Glen Ellen, CA. Situated on a gorgeous landscape just off a main road, this working ranch provided a wonderful breakfast on the patio, tennis courts, their own wine and freshly made EVOO, and fresh baked cookies and tea available 24 hours!20160213_170933.jpg

    Sitting on the wrap around porch, taking in the view of the surrounding Sonoma County, was the most refreshing experience of all time. I definitely can not wait to return. Hopefully next year, only this time as a married couple!

    We had a lovely hike while in Glen Ellen at the Jack London State Park. Little tip: do make sure to arrive with 10.00 for park entry fee and 4.00 per adult for entrance into the London’s private cottage. There is so much to do in this quaint town! The folks at the Benziger winery are so kind and helpful. The Glen Ellen Inn restaurant, where I was finally able to track down Kobe beef for my honey to try. Though domestic, it still afforded the exact experience I knew it would; Best. Beef. Everrr, he emphatically concurred. The Wolf House or Jack London Saloon is a nice small town watering hole with your typical pub fare, worth a look if you’re interested in cheap drinks and a lively game of pool.

    Our first night we actually stayed in Santa Rosa, my old stomping grounds if you will. We had an awesome dinner with exceptional brew and cider at Third Street Aleworks before walking over to the Roxy Theater for a showing of Deadpool. Not your typical lover of this so called ‘holiday’, I would say that this movie was one of the more epic highlights of our weekend. Don’t get me wrong, enjoying regional oysters  with adorable heart shaped ice placed just so in the middle of the plate, eating the most decadent (and free) dessert, all while staying at the beautiful Beltane were amazing experiences to sat the least. However, there’s something very special about laughing hysterically with the one you love as you thoroughly enjoy a crude comedy. An avid film buff and comic book lover, I would have to place this date on the top of my list.


    During breakfast the next morning, just before we were to depart for Glen Ellen, I was very pleasantly surprised (to the point of tears) to hear that my future hubby fiercely defended me and our decision to NOT have children in attendance at our wedding. After all, love is compromise, and I was more than willing to allow for a small baby to be permitted to the wedding when if it meant the attendance of a beloved cousin. However, numerous out of control toddlers of other family members was something I was not prepared to waiver on. We both agreed during the tour of our venue, that children would not be permitted, due to the historic and delicate nature of the mansion. Come to find out, most of our attendants are 100% OK with taking a 4 hour break from their familial duties to rock out at our kick ass party. That said, when we left for the country there was still a bit of tension regarding this subject, both of us not wanting to spoil a beautiful weekend, we left it off the table. So to find later that we had actually been on the same page the entire time was a blessing. You will hear me tout time and again the importance of open communication. It truly helps to lay the foundation of a successful relationship, for which to build that happy home upon. Too many times we bicker over miscommunications, this could easily be avoided by just saying how we feel.


    While I am on this rant of honesty, I must admit that I disrupted my ketogenic process yesterday with Oikos yogurt. Oh the shame! Check out those nutrition facts though, when attempting to get into a ketogenic state, it is imperative that sugar and carb intake is at an optimal low. My bad. I had gone two days with no grain, including breads, crackers, chips, and sugar! I though I was going out of my mind. The babe and I chose to get healthy for numerous reasons, and what better way than to go to the extreme right? Well I am here to tell you, bread and grains I can do without no prob, sure I miss rice, toast, jam, and cookies, but honestly its this lack of sugar that has begun hitting me the most. As the excess insulin begins it’s aggressive search for a new home,  we now find ourselves in a state of lethargic crankiness also known as the ‘ketosis flu‘. The body will eventually need to burn excess fat in its place, so hooray for burning fat instead of empty calorie sugars. Oh and seeing the dentist less, and my tummy/bowels are very happy now. Guess there’s no better way to test the waters of compatibility than to prove we can still co-exist as grump monsters. Luckily, I made sure to say bon voyage to sweets in the best way possible; by going to our cake tasting at Little Bliss Cakery! O.M.G. Yuuuum. Selected a few mini cupcake flavors and a two tier cake; strawberry champagne for me, and vanilla with chocolate fudge filling for him. Can not wait to see our final product.

    Much more to come on this wonderful (lol) dietary process, and how fun the coming weeks will surely prove to be!

     

    Cheers,

    e. darby

  • manis & mimosas, oh my!

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    Pulled off a fabulous mani and mimosa party (special thanks to Jen from Jamberry Nails). The rest of the day leading up to it however, not so fab. I only have three bridesmaids; my MOH lives close by, my sister is in Los Angela’s, while the other is a close fried from college who resides about two hours away. Well she calls about 30 min prior to her expected arrival to say she wasn’t going to make it. I can’t say I didn’t cry… just a little. My fiance then drove me to my MOH’s home (knowing I’d be filling up on Mimosas) and from there we headed to Yard House in Roseville, CA. Lunch at least was phenomenal. I highly suggest the Southern Belle cocktail. Yuuum. Also, the asada street tacos were superb. Cut to the most disappointing dress shopping experience of all time…

    The place was packed, my stylist was not the least bit stylish. Hoards of women in ball gowns were bumping into one another, all dressing rooms were filled, all the selections I came prepared to try on were unavailable. Talk about epic fail! I had a very pretty bridesmaid dress in mind; elegant, understated, but most of all affordable. I figured I could dress it up a bit with a gorgeous lace trim veil and wear it as my wedding dress. That is, until our ‘stylist’ gave me a salty look and responded “That’s not even a wedding dress.” Now for the most part, I am a level headed lady. I don’t like to give attitude or make for uncomfortable situations, especially with my MOH standing by my side. That said, having spent 7 years as a retail manager after attending school for apparel management, I guess you could say I have come to know and expect a certain level of service. I refused to make a scene, but the treatment of this young lady solidified my decision to look elsewhere. We finished up our appointment by trying on the Cinderella gown, just for funzies. Though totally gorgeous, this bodice embellished glitter tulle dress is no where near my personal realm of comfort. Later that night I showed my fiance, warning him to not like it because I’d never wear something so extravagant. Of course he got all verklempt and loved the dress. Too bad so sad.


    Next up was a new day new (million times better) experience with Katelyn at the Bouffant Rouge hair and makeup studio in Folsom. Love, love, LOVE this gal. Such a warm personality, full of sunshine. New mom, small business owner, British hubby, just the kinda woman you wanna chat with for hours about her fun and exciting life! All the worries of the previous days bridal appointment from hell dissipated after just 10 minutes in this comfy cozy salon. With hair and make-up on point, I headed to the Folsom Hotel. Had a couple shots of my new fave Bulliet Whiskey, met some more great people (Kiersten & Bryan from Elk Grove). We bounced around short story and screen play ideas with this haunted saloon making for a perfect setting, then my gorgeous future hubby and his parents arrived and we were off to our engagement shoot!

    The ladies form Foothill Photography were also amazing and entertaining. I guess you could say they were playing off our families personalities; one side passive-aggressive and the other (mine) in your face, all on the table types. Luckily I was a peppy, dance break having, spirited lady throughout, thanks to the preparation shots I took down just before. My grandparents even took time from celebrating their 59th wedding anniversary to be there with us and I couldn’t have been more thankful. We got some great pictures around Old Folsom, my personal favorite was in front of the Rail Road Museum. The proprietor who had closed up shop for the day came over let us on the train! Seriously, the pic is good enough to be on the cover of tourism pamphlets for the City of Folsom. Just saying.

    As a closing note I’d like to say that most of my life has been filled with heart ache and disappointment when it has come to past romantic relationships. Even friendships. I would say that all of my past experiences have helped me to really appreciate the kindhearted and accommodating partner I now have. For me personally, I do not think I would have had the understanding of just how lucky I would later be to find ‘the one’. I count my blessings every day for the struggles that lead me to where I am.

     

    Cheers,

    e. darby

     

     

  • Laundry days and Mondays (and wedding planning) always get me down…

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    Current Motivational Tunes: John Lennon Watching the Wheels

    Ok so I actually really enjoy doing laundry. We have a local place here in Midtown Sac that’s really great! However, I sit here as the rain pours and my fiancés bright orange work closes turn round and round while I am left thinking of how I’ve begun wading neck deep in wedding planning, which I currently find to be a much less enjoyable experience. I know what you may be thinking, this girl is ‘cray’, she would rather do laundry than plan her wedding. Well yes, and no? I am a little unconventional one might say. I don’t need the Cinderella dress (though it is stunning isn’t it), the hanging crystals, and 20k flower arrangement cascading form the ceiling like an allergy inducing waterfall, nope I am a simple gal. I often daydream of owning a barn we could spruce up for the perfect summertime wedding at next to no cost. Instead, we have booked a beautiful 18th century mansion on a brisk SUNDAY afternoon in mid December of this wondrous new year. We live in Northern California and I know I know, it never rains in sunny California…wait, I think it actually goes, it never rains in Southern California (I’ll have to get back to you). In any case, it definitely rains and has even been rumored to snow at the lower elevation where my fiancé and I will be exchanging nuptials. So the current stage of planning has me pondering why it is everyone charges so dang much for weddings?! *If you tell your vendor or hair stylist or whomever you choose to try and get away with it, that you need them for an ‘event’ you can actually save a pretty penny. Or so I hear. I blame the average American bride who spends upward of 30,000 on their wedding. Oh… by the by, if you came here expecting to see the magical journey of a well off bride posting epic and professional pics leading up to her platinum style wedding day, not happening. I am more of the country bumpkin, raised in the city, newly college graduate, working part time at a tanning salon bride, who will take every bit of advice and discounts available! Ehem….hint hint to the comments section if you have fun things to offer this struggling mess of a girl (winkey smiley face).


    This day started with an overpriced parking ticket (No parking in front of your home on Mondays due to street cleaning, though we never do street cleaning. Ever. #sorrynotsorry, Sacramento Parking Enforcement), crying over laundry after my inability to find an affordable- I’ll even settle for semi-professional- photographer. Then of course there was no time left to fold said laundry because work called me in early, where I was left to close up shop alone, got slammed, backed up, and trapped cleaning till the wee hours of the night (10:30pm). The honey is asleep, the clothes are all over the bed, the crock pot chili I left out a recipe for is cold, yet still delicious. Upside: there’s plenty of organic margarita mix with Sauza to go around…or at least enough to help me pass out with a clear conscience after I throw all of this fresh-n-clean laundry onto the floor.  zZzZ

     

    Cheers,

    e. darby